What is Emotional Stamina and how to build it

How social media affects our lives is not a novel thing, but still knowing all the facts, we blindly depend on it. Day and night, we show our plastic smile life on our social media pages, but sometimes reality comes out in a bitter yet accurate way. The phrase has proved again when a 25 years old successful American supermodel ‘Isabella Khair Hadid‘ also well known as Bella (Model of the year -2016), posted her latest crying pics on her Instagram. Hadid says she has suffered numerous breakdowns and burnouts.

Unfortunately, what is displayed in Spotlight is half-truth than what they make us see on social media. In reality, we all are humans with all emotions. Emotions that make us Human. All living beings have emotions, and the ability to handle that emotion is emotional stamina. So let us put more light on it.

Table of Content

1. What is Emotional Stamina
2. 7 Characteristics of Emotionally Strong People
3. How can I increase my Emotional Stamina?
4. Brain Exercise to increase Emotional Stamina
4.1 Monitor thoughts a few times a day
4.2 Acknowledge emotions and related thoughts
4.3 Do not fight with Thoughts
4.4 Live at the Present Moment
4.5 Persistence practice of meditation
4.6 Books to read to build Emotional Stamina

What is Emotional Stamina

Emotional stamina means how a person is emotionally fit and can stand against the odd situation that fits their personality. Building emotional stamina is not a one-day process. It involves years of experience to build it up. How we talk, how we react in unfamiliar and unfavorable conditions is dependent on emotional stamina. It also depends on how one person perceives a situation and relies on their experience how they react.

Emotional stamina or strength grows over time, and it involves a person’s ability to accept the coming challenges, deal with them and respond. 

 7 Characteristics of Emotionally Strong People

Everyone has different emotional stamina or strength to deal with daily life situations problems, and these problems vary from person to person. For example, it could be academic pressure, performance pressure at the office, debt, house rent, higher education, or relationship. However, Sometimes, these life issues become uncontrollable, and the problems become more overpowering to a person’s emotional strength, which is where a person’s emotional stamina comes. 

In our society, where we think showing emotions is a weakness. However, in reality, showing emotion is a natural way to relieve stress.

Emotionally strong people manage the stress of life more effectively and recover more quickly.

Emotional strength shows a person’s internal coping abilities that how he or she will see the situation, and how a person manages his or her inner self.

Often in our culture, people’s perception of emotional stamina is different. People see emotional outbursts with different lenses and name them as per their knowledge. For example, if a person is quiet and not complaining, not showing regression, then we think that person is emotionally intense. In contrast, the person who bursts into tears and anger is perceived as weak.

Such a conception is tremendously incorrect and misleading. For example, two students were competing for the same exam, but after got failed, one showed his frustration with anger, but on the other hand, another person was quiet, after a week, the person with anger was more determined to participate in the exam again, but on the other hand, another person decided to quit to not compete again in the same exam because of failure. So just trying to point out that the person who has responded in a particular situation with anger and tear is not necessarily weak.

Some characteristics of an emotionally intense person:

  1. Emotionally strong people are less discouraged by the odd situation and failures and quickly accommodate themselves.
  2. Emotional stamina makes a person more adaptable to change.
  3. They can easily express their emotions and needs.
  4. Tend to see the larger picture and solutions to the problem.
  5. Always ready to accept the challenges and criticism.
  6. They tend to learn from their mistakes and move forward. 
  7. Emotional, strong people try to solve the hurdles instead of making themselves a hurdle.

How can I increase my Emotional Stamina?

When Problems come in someones’ life, there is an inherent quality called survival. It exists in everyone; it makes us cope with any life difficulties. The strength is within us; we have to feel it and strengthen it.

In this world, there is an enormous crowd who do not even have one-time food and shelter.

When people face more challenges like food, shelter, education, safety in day-to-day life, they encounter more struggles than usual. Those life gets not even smooth or straightforward to think about other life necessities than food and safety because they are not even getting the basic necessities of life and their challenges are even more complex than usual. So they have more stamina than the others.

 Families who are struggling with poverty live their life in chaos and endure everyday challenges. They work under chaos and immense pressure, and they have the tremendous ability to stay strong, and when the situation changes into a positive, they get accustomed to a pleasant situation. They are used to facing and tolerating Emotional trauma in day-to-day life; Which makes them more robust than others whose life challenges are not even around these challenges. 

Nobody was ever ready for the Covid 19 situation. Nobody is even aware that they are going to lose their lives and their loved ones’ life; sometimes, when we see the circumstances when everyone is getting affected, that time people set their emotion that they are not alone, they all are in the same condition, this heals them and helps to cope with the situation.

However, we can make ourselves more emotionally strong before encountering any significant challenges in our life.  

Here I will discuss some Brain exercises that help in increasing focus and awareness about thoughts and emotions.

Brain Excercise to increase Emotional Stamina

People who accept life situations and conditions are more emotionally fit than those who crip about it.  

Every day everyone encounters thousands of positive and negative thoughts and emotions. Positive emotions give positive thoughts, Depressive Emotions give negative thoughts, and a series of more terrifying negative thoughts, which we can not control, but we can admit their presence.

Emotions that drive us to more related thoughts restrain us from moving ahead and make us tangled into fear.

We can train our brains to survive with the current feelings, acknowledge their presence, and heal the emotions at the trigger point. 

Here are the few brain exercises that will help to shift negative emotions and thoughts in to positive:

Monitor thoughts a few times a day

It is crucial to monitor our focus, what type of thoughts are triggered, the outcome of our thoughts, and how they affect us. For example, the effect of news channels and their highlights always trigger our anger and frustration.

Most people do not know how their subconscious brain works; it focuses on the situation’s negative side and creates negative thoughts. It is effortless for negative thoughts to overwhelm all things, but if a person consciously shifts the awareness, it can create positive thoughts and desired emotions.

By checking the thoughts multiple times a day, anyone will know why they encounter such emotions and how they can shift their focus.

The moment a person starts acknowledging the emotions will better know the reasons for having such thoughts that impact the mood.

When the past situation reappears, the emotions related to the past come again to address the same problem encountered earlier.

At that moment, accept the emotion, feel it, and slowly, that emotion will pass.

Studies show that accepting the emotions and thoughts and accepting that it is normal can shift the focus on opportunities. 

Do not fight with Thoughts.

Monitor the emotion like an owner of mind, body, and soul. 

Let the thoughts come and go, do not hold it back, do not argue with it, and do not explain; this is just the Thought, not the reality.

Once a person starts arguing with it, it will get trapped with the same thoughts with more intensity and guilt, so the point is this lets free it; the way emotion comes, it will slowly disappear after showing its existence. So please do not fight with it. 

Live at the Present Moment

Always live in the present moment, no one has any control over the past and the coming future, so do not punish or blame for the situation, live at that moment, cherish mind, body, and soul with happiness and self-development that will help to build a strong foundation of person’s well-being. 

Persistence practice of meditation

Meditation will give calmness and silence to the jumping thoughts. Meditation always helps to differentiate between positive and negative thoughts and right and wrong, true and false. It will help to live in the present moment and stabilize the emotions.

There are tremendous benefits of meditation, but one rule is also there, a person has to be very persistent and make a habit of doing daily meditation to get its benefits.

Best books on building Emotional Stamina

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